As Autumn begins, we can take time for ourselves
and reflect on our place in the larger world. These
last few weeks have been filled with images of people
in desperate situations whose lives have undergone
tremendous sudden change.
this edition of the newsletter will address:
- Sanity Savers for
dealing with differences, and
- Tips for keeping balance by giving back in
times of crises.
Thank you again for helping to get the word out
(co-authored with Annie Gilbar), Wedding Sanity
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Wishing you health, peace and balance.
Dealing with Differences
When we're overwhelmed by current events and all
that we have to do, it's easy to become stressed
with the people we live and deal with on a daily
basis. Somethimes, we snap more easily and are not
accepting of other's differences of opinions and
Here are some Sanity Savers to keep in mind
we have different viewpoints, especially with family
members and co-workers.
- Don't put down other's opinions - Try not
criticize. Keep personalities and history out of it.
Stick to the topic at hand.
- Be creative in problem solving -
(even for parents!)
- Allow yourself to see the other person's
perspective and try something new - Just
you have always looked at a situation one way,
doesn't mean it's the only way.
- Discuss different aspects of a topic -
Even if the
subject matter is difficult and clear answers are hard
to come by, hang in there.
- Encourage and learn to be comfortable with
individuality and individual expression - Allowing
others to be themselves shows you care.
- Listen better - Do not interrupt or don't
anticipate what the other person will say. Try
understand their perspective. You do not have to
- Be patient and let others think things
through - You lay the
groundwork for mutual respect and consideration
time to say your "peace".
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Keeping Balance by Giving Back in Times of Crisis
Is It Time to Start Giving Back?
Katrina and now Rita forces many
of us to reflect on our own lives and what is
meaningful. Is our life in balance? Have we gotten
off track from that which is important?
Is it time to start giving back?
Benefits Others and
If you're left with
feelings of loss and sadness at this
maybe you can use our nation's natural
distasters as a catalyst for committing yourself to
some kind of service for others. Contributing is good
for us and helps us heal from crises. And the plus is
help others, YOU also benefit by:
- Being a part of something larger than yourself
- Making a difference in the word
- Modeling for children
- Working with others; not feeling isolated, alone or
- Improving your physical, mental and emotional
- Feeling good about touching other's lives.
Where to Begin?
If you want to
volunteer and don't know where to
begin, start small, keep it simple and let your
charitable nature grow. Here are some ideas to get
- Write a letter - Connecting with someone such
as an inmate in jail is so simple yet so welcome.
- Call a local chapter of any charity that has
meaning to you (cancer society, homeless shelter,
animal refuge) and ask what is needed.
- Help in a local library.
- Get involved with a cause or political
- Hold and spend time with a baby in the
- Play the piano at a nursing home.
- Rake leaves or shovel snow for a home
bound elderly person.
- Cook a meal for your local shelter.
- Help teach children to read.
Maintain your own balance
and take a
break from the problems of the world. Try not to be
glued to the news or obsessed with situations
your control. Keep a "fresh" perspective by taking in
a comedy or getting together for an enjoyable
evening with friends.
Happiness cannot come from hatred or anger.
Nobody can say, "Today I am happy because this
morning I was very angry." On the contrary, people
feel uneasy and sad and say, "Today I am not happy
because I lost my temper this morning." Through
kindness, whether at our own level or at the national
and international level, through mutual understanding
and through mutual respect, we will get peace, we
will get happiness, and we will get genuine
-His Holiness the Dalai Lama
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and media commentator who appears
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience as a relationship expert,
focusing on families, couples, parenting, aging well
and stress management.
Dr. Atkins is the author
and/or co-editor of several books including:
SistersFrom the Heart:
Their Private Thoughts about their Private
Families and their Hearing-Impaired
OK, You're My Parents
Wedding Sanity Savers
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