In Less Than Perfect Situations
I discuss dealing with less than ideal
circumstances in your life.
In Tips to Help Children in Hospitals
I offer suggestions to help your child
before, during, and after a hospital
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For The Less Than Perfect Situation
Dealing with less than ideal situations is a
fact of life. You may not have received a job
promotion or perhaps someone just didn't come
through for you. In the
current economy, it may very well be taking
whatever job comes your way, or not retiring
when you planned. It may be altering your
child's options for college, or having your
adult children move back in with you. Each
one of us faces challenges at various times.
How you deal with these challenges (which
often present as disappointments) contributes
to whether you see yourself as a
resilient person with a
sense of control or a victim.
One way to view the situation is to think
about making the most of the
though this is not the scenario you would
have written for yourself, consider the ways
you can benefit from this change. How can you
apply your cognitive skills to other areas?
How can you make the most of the transition
when dealing with the unknown and feelings of
insecurity? Without sounding like "Pollyanna"
how can you look for the silver lining and
find gratitude in the day to day experience?
Focusing on only the negative aspects of what
is not going right will contribute to your
of worthlessness and add to your
focus on the benefits of the changes. For
example, if you need to accept a part time
job because a full time job is just not
available, pay attention to the extra time
you now have to engage in a hobby, volunteer
at a local shelter, or spend more time with
those you love.
During what you may see as a personal
downturn, work at being kind to people. Go
out of your way to help others. See what you
can do to be of service (bring food to a
neighbor in need or offer to visit someone
who is alone.) By
focusing on other people's situations, you
are less likely to feel as if there is a dark
cloud over your head.
TODAY Show (NBC)
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Topic: Sanity Savers: Tips for Living a
See Dr. Atkins' article, Sanity Savers for
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Hear Dr. Atkins on the radio
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WOR News Talk Radio 710, Sunday evenings
Review Your Goals
Developing Awareness Daily
Review your goals each day as a way to get
closer to achieving your short, medium, and
long term goals. Begin each day with a moment
of gratitude and then review your goals. When
you make an effort to focus on them early in
the day, you will have better awareness of
your objectives as you go through your day.
Then you will make better choices and likely
have better results.
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Tips To Help Children In Hospitals
When children need to be hospitalized it is
important that we prepare them as best we
can. What can be a difficult experience for
them and their family can be altered by the
feelings you as a parent, grandparent, or
friend show the child. Always offer
the experience that is age-appropriate in a
positive and honest way.
Here are some tips to help you focus during such
- Prepare Your Child for the Visit
- Gather information from your doctor and
the hospital. Explain to your child what to
expect. Present information honestly, and
answer any questions your child may have.
Consider touring the hospital ahead of time.
- Provide Support During
Hospitalization - Bring some special
belongings (make sure your child's name is on
with your child as much as you can, and
arrange for another person close to your
child to stay when you cannot. Call your
child often when you are
not there. Bring in photos of friends and
family. Prepare a tape cassette of you
child's favorite stories.
- Keep Communicating During the Hospital
Experience - Request that the nurses and
doctors give you information about procedures
before they occur. Give honest explanations
to your child about treatments after you
obtain the information. Listen to your
child's feelings (fears, anger, frustration)
and acknowledge them. Give compliments, hugs
and encouragement frequently. Tell your child
that you admire him/her.
- Maintain Normal Routines as Much as
Possible - Bring in school assignments
and work with your child's teacher to help
your child stay caught up with school work.
Provide opportunities for independence,
choices and decision making (i.e.,choosing
what to wear, what movie to watch or toy to
play with). Try to avoid giving your child
privileges and excessive gifts.
- Recognize That Your Child May Display
Temporary Behavior Changes - Be patient.
Give your child time to readjust. Stay with
your child as much as possible. Help your
child talk about the experience, either in
conversation or by drawing pictures. Make a
scrapbook with your child about the hospital.
Thanks to Rockford Health Systems for some of
"Too many people miss the silver lining
because they're expecting gold."
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and commentator in the media who
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience and focuses on living a
life, parenting, aging well, managing stress,
work transitions, family connections and healthy
Dr. Atkins is the author
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