Dr. Dale Atkins, PhD Psychology P.C.
Sanity SaversTM and More...
August 2014

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In this month's article, Changing Routines, I invite you to consider how you can alter your life in a positive way by "shaking up" the way you normally do things.

In Tips for Making the Most of Your Time Off, I offer tips to help you avoid pitfalls that prevent restoration and relaxation.

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In this issue
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Changing Routines
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Tips for Making the Most of Your Time Off
  • Happenings
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
  • JUMPSTART
  • A Thought

  • Sanity SaversTM
    Changing Routines

    For some of us August represents the "middle" of summer; to others, "the end of summer." It is actually both. As the season begins to change and structured routines return, it can be a great month to "re-think" house rules and practices for the Fall.

    Maybe the children in your life have been traveling, visiting friends or relatives, in day or sleep-away camp, or working at summer jobs. During August, family routines are often different. Before you slip back in to the "same old - same old," take some time and imagine what you would like your personal and your family time to look like and how it can be structured.

    Consciously consider how you want to begin, go through, and end each day. What are the most effective and healthiest ways to recognize and integrate everyone's spiritual, physical, emotional, work, and school needs? What would you like to adjust? Family dinner? One-on-one time? Involvement with nature? Technology-free experiences?

    Settle on two or three changes (maybe they are changes in family rules) and before your fall "routine" begins again, share your thoughts about what you want to do differently and why. Solicit ideas from each person in the family and honestly consider what might work. Try some suggestions for one or two weeks.

    Once you decide, slowly start to change some of the routine so it's not such a shock in September. Most of us (children included) do better when our days begin to have a little more structure. For example, begin rolling the bedtimes back by 10 or 15 minutes a night to slowly move kids into their school schedule. Observe what your kids are doing rather than what they're saying and make adjustments as necessary. At the same time, be sure to listen when they share their feelings about the end of summer or some concerns about the school year and involve them in exploring solutions.

    Consider designating an official end of summer to help mark the transition. Celebrate the summer ending over a special picnic or potluck where everyone can talk about their favorite moments of the past two-to-three months. Rituals like this can help family members carry happy memories into the fall.


    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Finding Stillness in a Noisy World.

    The world is a noisy place, and trying to focus on a task or challenge can be difficult with a consistent bombardment of sounds.

    With practice and focus, we CAN create our own inner stillness in the midst of distractions. We can take a break and take deep breaths for a few minutes, going to a quiet place within to "reset." We can then return to what we were doing, refreshed.


    Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Tips for Making the Most of Your Time Off

    In August, many of us take time off from our normal routine. If you are lucky enough to have a few lazy-days-of-summer, here are some suggestions to make the most of them:

    Take Time to Nurture Yourself. - Whether you are alone or with friends, new folks, or family, do something each day to nurture yourself -- something YOU love. A walk alone? Listening to music? Reading the morning paper? Soaking your feet? Sleeping late? Retiring early. Be sure to listen to your body and your inner voice to keep your personal reservoir full during this time. It does not make much sense to finish your "time off" feeling more tired than when you began.

    Get to Know the People You are with from a Fresh Perspective. - Revisit some of the previous times you were together. Get to know their perspectives on those times as well as sharing your own. Time often changes the way we perceive choices we made and experiences we had. Talking about our "shared history" can be an eye opener. No need to focus on whose memory is "right" and whose is "wrong." Allow there to be space for different remembrances and perceptions of what you may have thought was the "same" experience.

    Do Something Different from the Way You Usually Do Things. - Patterns and habits take time to change. Think if there are any habits or patterns you would like to alter in some way. Beginning new, healthy ways of living are often best begun when "out of our normal routine." Then, when we get back into the routine we have already begun those new patterns and habits which draw on different internal resources to keep ourselves healthy. Something as simple as quieting ourselves before bed, breathing deeply to focus our mind, noticing things we appreciate, attending to detail, or moving our body in a different way can have a subtle yet lasting impact.


    Happenings

    TODAY Show (NBC).
    Dr. Atkins is a frequent contributor.

    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for updated appearances.

    VERIA Living
    June 30th, 1PM, and 10PM EST: The Value of Vacations.
    See www.veria.com for channel information.

    Sixty and Me Interviews
    Four interviews with Dr. Atkins, conducted by Margaret Manning, covering the following topics: stress and worry, care-giving, downsizing, and friendships.
    http://sixtyandme.com/elderly-care-how-to-be-a-caregiver-while-taking-care-of-your-own-life-interview-with-dr-dale-atkins/, and http://sixtyandme.com/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-in-retirement-interview-with-dr-dale-atkins/

    Experience Life Magazine
    The Cares of Caregiving, by Jon Spayde. Interview.
    March, 2014 issue.
    http://experiencelife.com/article/the-cares-of-caregiving/

    I hope you enjoy my chapter, "Family Involvement and Counseling," in the new text, Introduction to Aural Rehabilitation, Second Edition. Edited by Raymond H. Hull, and published by Plural Publishing.

    I invite you to visit my website to access archives of articles and interviews on line.

    My sincere thanks to website developer, Barry Brothers, who, along with Carina Ramirez Cahan, brought vision and positive, creative energy to the site. Do take a look at Barry's work here: http://www.thelimulusgroup.com/bb and consider him for your business, development, design and communication needs.


    Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Once again thank you for continuing to read and talk about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.


    JUMPSTART

    WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education organization that recruits and trains college students and community corps members to serve preschool children in low-income neighborhoods in year-long mentoring relationships. Jumpstart also partners with families, preschool centers, institutions of higher education, community groups and a variety of other groups and individuals to make certain that every stakeholder in a child's life is working to provide them with a high quality early education.

    Jumpstart's proven curriculum helps children develop the language, literacy, and socio-emotional skills they need to be ready for school, setting them on a path to close the achievement gap before it is too late.

    Please help to spread the word about the mission of Jumpstart and the remarkable strides being made in low income neighborhoods every day. If you can, contribute by clicking on www.jstart.org/donate www.jstart.org/donate. Over one million children live below the poverty level in the U.S. This shameful situation must change. Each of us has a responsibility to repair our world. Let us eliminate the 2-year achievement gap that exists between children from low income and those from middle income neighborhoods when they begin kindergarten!

    Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart initiatives - such as Scribbles to Novels - held on May 13, 2014, at Cipriani Wall Street. Laura Schroff, author of An Invisible Thread, was our featured guest.


    A Thought

    "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all."

    Helen Keller


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    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters:
  • A Practical, Helpful Exploration of the Intimate and Complex Bond between Female Siblings
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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